Emotionally Focused Therapy
COUPLES THERAPY
Just as you would visit a physical therapist to help a physical injury heal, seeking counseling is an active step towards helping your damaged relationships heal. Choosing to improve your relationships in therapy will not be easy but it will be worth it. It will take work to move away from a cycle of conflict and reactivity towards safety, intimacy and connection and new and better ways of relating. When you engage in the process, you are making an investment in yourself as well: to grow in self-awareness, embrace change and experience healing as you explore new and better ways of being. People don’t normally think of therapy as an investment. However, when you show up in therapy to do the work, you are making an investment in the most important relationships in your life!
When couples come to therapy, they are usually stuck in habitual ways of dealing with their emotions and with each other. As they continue to feel increasingly stuck in their relationship, they start to feel more frustrated, anxious, angry and distressed. As these painful feelings deepen, they begin to feel more disconnected and more alone in what seems like an unending cycle of negative interactions. If this describes some of what you might be feeling in your relationship, EFT may be able to help!
With EFT, we can work together on:
Creating a safe place for you to start understanding why you got stuck
Exploring the ways that you interact that contribute to this negative cycle
Getting to the heart of what’s underneath these destructive patterns of interaction
Moving your conflicts from a heated, overwhelming state to a less reactive and calmer space
Learning how to be more accessible and available to your partner
Practicing how to be more responsive and understanding with your partner
Addressing unfulfilled needs and longings in your relationship
Being more engaged and connected with each other
With the help of therapy, you can identify and avoid the patterns that threaten your connection, restore your love and sense of security through empathy and develop a deeper intimacy through new ways of being with each other.